22 November, the community stepped out for the annual Illawarra White Ribbon Day Walk organised by the Illawarra Committee Against Domestic Violence. This year we focused on See Something, Say Something, Do Something with speeches by Lord Mayor Gordon Bradbery and the Superintendent Wollongong Police District . The committee would like to thank the everyone that walked with us, including media coverage and supporting the events of White Ribbon, a symbol that is recognised on a global scale. Thank you to: Paul Scully D apto High School Warilla High School – Official City of Wollongong Zonta Club of Wollongong Quota International Leisure Coast Wollongong Ambulance Station WIN News Illawarra Illawarra Mercury PRIME7 Department of Communities and Justice for sponsoring the BBQ and Ron Simpson for the acknowledgement to country. Maris Depers White Ribbon Ambassador and M.C for the Walk Kenton Bell – White Ribbon Ambassador members of the public and pets!
SEE Something, SAY Something, DO Something
ICADV welcome all motorbike riders to join us for a day out and say no to domestic violence. We begin the day with registrations at the Towradgi Beach Hotel where you will be able to purchase raffle tickets as well. Just before departing at 10.00am we’ll say the White Ribbon oath and leave for Greenwell Point Hotel where we have lunch and draw the lucky door prize and raffle. All money raised goes to the Illawarra Committee Against Domestic Violence (ICADV). Our donations go towards educating services that work with victims of domestic violence, and also to print our most valuable resource, the ICADV DV Booklet , which helps the community and most importantly victims of domestic violence linking them with services in the local area.
ICADV welcome all motorbike riders to join us for a day out and say no to domestic violence. We begin the day with registrations at the Towradgi Beach Hotel where you will be able to purchase raffle tickets as well. Just before departing at 10.00am we’ll say the White Ribbon oath and leave for Greenwell Point Hotel where we have lunch and draw the lucky door prize and raffle. All money raised goes to the Illawarra Committee Against Domestic Violence (ICADV). Our donations go towards educating services that work with victims of domestic violence, and also to print our most valuable resource, the ICADV DV Booklet , which helps the community and most importantly victims of domestic violence linking them with services in the local area. You can download our registration form White Ribbon Ride 2018 Registration and bring it with you on the day.
NSW Police DV Team have launched a new podcast called “Control” . Over three episodes it explores how violence and control are two different tactics used by perpetrators in a relationship and what it takes to break the cycle. Cassie was 29 when she met and married her partner after he moved to Australia. The couple welcomed a son in 2014. Throughout their three-year relationship, she endured controlling, jealous and violent behaviour at the hands of her husband. In 2016, Kylie married the ex-husband of Cassie. Together they also had a son. Like many women, Cassie and Kylie hid years of abuse perpetrated on them by their partner from family, friends and even police because they lived with both fear and shame. This podcast shares their very personal story, in particular, the way that violence and intimidation gradually evolved in their relationships. The podcast also highlights the red flags of a violent and controlling relationship and how together with police and support services, people can stop the cycle of domestic violence.
ICADV 2018 Illawarra White Ribbon Day walk is held in Shellharbour, Reddall Reserve Lake Illawarra on the 23rd November 2018. The walk will commence at 7.00am, which will be followed by a sausage sizzle BBQ and motivational speakers. This year we focus on the children affected by domestic violence, the hidden victims. 1 in 4 children is exposed to domestic violence, children who experience domestic violence at home are raised in an unpredictable environment that is filled with fear, tension, and anxiety. The impact of domestic and family violence on children is immense and can often affect them for the rest of their lives. Children and young people don’t have to see the violence to be affected by it. Domestic Violence can lead to significant emotional and psychological trauma. Instead of growing up in a fun, supportive, relaxing environment that is emotionally and physically safe and secure, these children are forced to worry about the future. Studies show that living with domestic violence can cause physical and emotional harm to children and young people in the following ways: ongoing anxiety and depression emotional distress eating and sleeping disturbances physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomach aches find it hard to manage stress low self-esteem self-harm be aggressive towards friends and schoolmates feel guilty or blame themselves for the violence have trouble forming positive relationships develop phobias and insomnia struggle with going to school and doing school work use bullying behaviour or become a target of bullying difficulty concentrating find it hard to solve problems have less empathy and caring for others Young people exposed to domestic and family violence are more likely to: suffer from depression be homeless abuse drugs and alcohol engage in risk-taking behaviours experience or use violence and be controlling and manipulative in relationships
What an evening we had! Thanks to everyone that came to the Bystander Moment documentary screening and panel discussion at Shellharbour Civic Centre last night. We had an amazing discussion about the film and then dove into ways we are currently working and how we can move forward in educating, modeling and promoting community becoming more active bystanders or “upstanders” in addressing common gender issues that are so intrinsically linked to violence against women. We have been overwhelmed by the engagement and positive feedback received and wish to thanks our wonderful M.C Maris Depers and amazing panel members for providing such wonderful passion and insight into such an important topic. Special thank to our panel: Keaton James- Top Blokes Foundation Denika Thomas- IWHC and UOW Josh Cleaver – NSW Health Anastasia Socorro – Aboriginal Legal Service.
On Sunday 24 November, the annual Illawarra White Ribbon Motorcycle ride was held to support ICADV’s ongoing message to ” Say No to Domestic Violence”. This is the 6th year for the ride that gets stronger every year. ICADV is an interagency that receives no funding and relies on donations from the community. We provide educational forums and resources for services that work directly with people who are experiencing DV. ICADV also provides valuable resources to the community such as our DV booklet. The DV booklet is filled with information on local services that can help with what to do if you or a friend/family member is experiencing DV. We’d like to thank the following businesses that proudly supported the ride, one of our favorite events: Fraser Harley-Davidson Wollongong – Lucky Door Prize (Harley Davidson Pack) City Coast Motorcycles – Watch and keyring Motocity Wollongong – Fairy Meadow and Albion Park – Full face helmet Cj’s Motorcycles Oak Flats – Motorcycle cleaning products Steel City Motorcycles – Open face helmet Towradgi Beach Hotel & Waves – Meeting place – Start point Greenwell Point Hotel – Bistro area and 4 x $50 fuel cards To the riders, a sincere thank you for making this event special, members of the HOG NSW South Coast Chapter that attended and riders from Campbelltown Judy and Massimo. Illawarra riders Mark and Vicki, Kim, Patrick, Graziano, Brooke,Didier, Lawrence, Roger, Jason, Jessica, Michael, Grant, Kathy, Con, Evangelos, David, Darren, Louise, Andrew, Kim, Stephen, Janeen, Mr. Hartin, Cass, Tony, John, Kat, Bob, Maree, John, Raymond , Melissa,Tammy Kevin sandy and Robbie, Ken and Tania. I hope I didn’t miss anyone! Your contribution has made a difference in the lives of people that need support during difficult times. Congratulations to the winners of the raffles and to the patrons from the Greenwell Point Hotel who joined in!
The #MeToo movement has shined much-needed light on the pervasiveness of sexual harassment and abuse and created unprecedented demand for gender violence prevention models that actually work. The Bystander Moment tells the story of one of the most prominent and proven of these models — the innovative bystander approach developed by pioneering activist and writer Jackson Katz and his colleagues. In a riveting analysis illustrated with archival footage and clips from news, sports, and entertainment media, Katz explores the role of bystanders — especially friends, teammates, classmates, and co-workers—in perpetuating sexual harassment, sexual assault, and other forms of gender violence. Katz also gives special attention to the peer culture dynamics — in particular the male peer culture dynamics across race and ethnicity — that help to normalize sexism and misogyny while silencing other men in the face of abuse. Along the way, The Bystander Moment stresses the crucial importance of appealing to people not as potential perpetrators or passive spectators, but as active bystanders and potential leaders who have a positive role to play in challenging and changing the sexist cultural norms that too often lead to gender violence. The result is an indispensable educational tool in the ongoing struggle to prevent sexism and misogyny and promote gender equality. Read more… Check the ICADV Facebook page for any updates about the event.
